Things To Do For Two

If you have the itch to travel the world but your bank account won’t allow it, a destination date might be just what the doctor ordered. The idea is simple, everything you do on the date has to relate to a particular country you would like to visit. For our first destination date we chose Italy.

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SHE SAID:

Since creating our vacation box, I’ve been dreaming about ridiculously expensive trips to places like Italy, England, France, and Belarus. Okay, maybe not the last one, but you get the idea. Since my dreams cannot be realized just yet, I thought it might be fun to pretend a bit more and further delude reality by bringing those places home. Say what? Since we can’t go to any of those fancy destinations just yet, we thought we’d have a night devoted to the food and entertainment from one of our top dream destinations.

One of the hardest parts with this whole date was deciding on a destination that had both appealing food and entertainment, in our case, a movie set in Italy. Though we hope our next destination to be England, the food from Italy trumped the Queen’s and we rushed to the bookstore for more Italian food inspiration, which we thought would be an easy task. Not so, my friends, not so. It turns out Italian food is more than just pasta dishes and even those can be quite complicated when venturing beyond your standard spaghetti and meatballs. We eventually did end up finding one tortellini dish we thought we might enjoy and headed to the grocery store, where Brad almost lost the list of required ingredients. Gulp.

One thing this date does require is preparation, but don’t let that discourage you from giving it a try. You can shave off an enormous amount of time by simply ordering in Chinese or going out for sushi. If you can’t seem to find appealing forms of food and entertainment for one country, you could do an “around the world” approach that touches on several different destinations.

After we had stuffed ourselves with 5 varieties of cheese to the point of indigestion we switched to one of our favourite forms of entertainment, the movie. After reading about Only You over at Paula Jane’s ever entertaining and equally informative Best in Romantic Comedies blog, I knew that would be the perfect compliment to the evening and I wasn’t disappointed. I don’t think Brad felt like gouging his eyes out either.

HE SAID:

My favourite date ideas tend to be ones that put a twist on a typical date and are inexpensive. The destination date fits both of those requirements. I loved the idea right from the get go because there are so many possible things to do to have a fun time.

For our first destination date we chose Italy. This was largely because the night was going to revolve around a meal. Although making the meal wasn’t too difficult, choosing which dish to make proved to be a little more work than was expected. In our Indoor Picnic post, we warned against waiting until you are hungry before beginning food preparation on a date. Though we didn’t exactly wait until we were hungry, it took so long for us to decide what to make, get the groceries, and prepare the meal, that we were on the brink of disaster by the time it all came together. If you want to make your destination date easier, you could always order in from your favourite international restaurant, but we enjoy the challenge of making a new dish.

Because the meal took so long, we didn’t spend the time decorating the living room to conjure up thoughts of vacationing in Italy. However, I took a few minutes and made some mini Italian flags to put in our dinner. If you do a destination date though, feel free to decorate your house based on the country you choose.

We chose to do a destination date by having dinner and watching a movie. If that’s not up your alley, feel free to try other activities. You could play a sport that is popular in a certain country, an art form that derived from your destination of choice, or try to find new and interesting music from another part of the world. The point is to bring the culture of that country to your own home for much less money than it would take to travel.

I really enjoyed our destination date. We’ll definitely be doing it again with a different country because there are so many fun options for things to do. If you dream of travelling the world but don’t have the cash to do it, I would definitely recommend you try a destination date. If you try it, let us know how it goes. We’re always interested in hearing about your experiences.

SHE SAID:

There are times in a couple’s relationship when a sweet idea turns sour. This was one of those times and it came out of nowhere. The scene was set for a lovely dessert date to a local waterfront restaurant where we had enjoyed several lovely desserts before.We decided not to risk it and wander somewhere new with a “don’t fix what’s not broken” kind of philosophy.

However, by the end of the date there were definitely things in need of repair, such as our self-esteem.

It all started with the waitress. She obviously didn’t approve of us skipping the appies and entrées and going straight for the sweet stuff. She even went so far as to mention that they usually “put people in the bar” who are just getting dessert. My heart dropped to the floor and was repeatedly slapped around as she ignored our table and brought us a less than stellar fondue. I mean, come on, a fondue without strawberries? I’m usually pretty good at not letting a rude person or even a disappointing meal ruin my evening, but when you’re talking dessert you’re messing with a dangerous thing.

Even though the horrible service put a damper on our date, I would still try this date idea again simply because I love any good excuse to enjoy my two favourite things in life – my husband and sugar. We’ll have to break the mould and try somewhere new because something is broken and needs a good fixin’. If you have any suggestions for good dessert spots, let us know!

HE SAID:

Sometimes the ol’ wallet shakes it’s head in disapproval when we head to a local restaurant for a fine dining date night. So we thought a Dessert Date might be a fun and cheaper alternative. We were right about it being cheaper, but the fun was debatable. Since this is not a review of the restaurant we chose, I won’t go into detail except to say it wasn’t our most rage-free evening out.

I actually love the idea of having a home cooked dinner and then hitting the town for a nice dessert because you get to experience the best of both worlds. I don’t get buyer’s remorse when the bill comes, and I don’t get eater’s remorse from stuffing my face with a huge meal.

Here are a few tips that will hopefully keep you from the less than stellar evening we had:

1) Plan to get to your restaurant of choice a bit later in the evening. That way the dinner rush is mostly over and you won’t be surrounded by chaos as you try to unwind.

2) Tell the person seating you that you are there for dessert. This will help you avoid any awkward lectures when your server finds out you’re not spending the big bucks, and therefore should have been seated elsewhere.

3) If your restaurant of choice has a view, request a window seat. If not, try to get a table around the perimeter of the room. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re being watched by everyone because your table is in the middle of the room.

Even though it wasn’t the perfect date night, we still made the best of it. Coffee and dessert is the perfect way to end the day (actually, it’s perfect for ANY time of day). So if you’re looking for a cheaper alternative to eating out, try having the main course at home and hitting the town for dessert.

– Speaking of desserts, we have a very special treat coming soon. That’s right, our next giveaway is just around the corner! We’ll let you know more details soon. –

SHE SAID:

Every year around this time when summer is on the horizon, I get the itch to plan a vacation. I absolutely LOVE searching out hotels and attractions and planning a whole trip itinerary, even if I don’t have the money to bring it to fruition. Brad is the complete opposite. The man would be perfectly content to have 5 minutes notice to go anywhere in the world.

That being said, it is nice to take an evening to talk and research any and all the places you’ve ever thought of visiting. You may surprise each other with the places you suggest. Keep the list of locations handy to refer back to in the future when you’re getting the itch to get away.

Since we already went on a little winter escape this year, the vacation funds are a little low. However, to keep the hope alive, we decided to make a vacation box where we could throw loose change and make more significant contributions once in a while. Once summer hits, we’ll open the box and see where our savings can take us. Here’s hoping we make it farther than the next town over. I only wish we had started saving sooner…

HE SAID:

Having a place to throw spare change is nothing new for me. Up until now I have always kept it in an empty jam jar tucked away in the closet of my office. I love the feeling of emptying out the jar full of coins and being pleasantly surprised at how much it all adds up to.

So why mess with a good thing? Well, I personally believe that a husband and wife should not keep secrets from each other unless Christmas or a birthday is involved. Until recently, I thought my wonderful wife felt the same way. Then she revealed to me that she has been secretly dipping into my jam jar fund in order to buy snacks at work. The nerve! From the ashes of my disappointment in her stealing ways came the idea for a new spare change savings system (say that 5 times fast!), one that we both contribute to but neither of us can dip into until vacation time.

We had some fun making a little cover for the shoebox that is now our Vacation Box. We found pictures of four places we’d like to visit, or in one case revisit, both to inspire us to keep adding to the box, but also to keep from stealing from it. But we didn’t stop there, oh no. Once the cover was on the box, I took some masking tape and taped the you-know-what out of it. There were also holes in the bottom of the box, so I taped those up too so no coins could fall out. There is no way anyone is getting at that money without it being very obvious.

Though this isn’t much of a date idea in itself, it was a lot of fun to put together, and to dream up ideas of where we’d love to go someday. It’s a great way to plan for some fun dates in other parts of the world, whether in a different country, or just a few hours from home.